The Dutch IND and nearest Consulate in the UK don't seem to understand the details of my situation and are just confusing me. Preamble; I am aware this would all be much easier if my Afghani boyfriend joined me after I'd already moved to the Netherlands, but we wanted to see if an alternative scenario could work, which is this;
He goes to Iran to stay with his parents and brothers. We apply for him to get a UK visit visa so he can come and stay with me for a while and see Manchester and meet my family and friends. The crux of this scenario is, I don't want him to have to go home to either Iran or Afghanistan. As a gay man this would be very unsafe for him. I know on a visit visa he can't stay with me so I want to move to the Netherlands.
If I look for work so we can move, I know he can apply for a Schengen entry visa as I have been informed so by the IND. He would need to prove that he's been in the UK for 3 months minimum. The problem is I don't know on what basis this would be. What worries me is that it takes me a while to find a relevant job, and it could mean him either having to go home to comply with the terms of his visa, or risk over staying and would that overstay put his entry into the Netherlands in jeopardy.
If that just isn't legally feasible, I'll start looking for work in the Netherlands much sooner, move with a job and then once settled just bring him over the easier way. I just really wanted us to have time together here first before we moved.