My mom has recently become an illegal immigrant in England; she's admitted it as such via her Instagram.
She just upped and left, with no real warning; my dad is devastated.
I'm 25/F and an only child. I have a good relationship with both my parents.
There were no big life events that caused this; only a week ago we'd been celebrating my dad getting a promotion and me having lived for a year in my new city in Canada (I'm dual Canadian/US Citizen); he lives in the U.S. but my dad is Canadian, Mom is American if that makes sense.
He lives in AZ, in the U.S. but I'm in Vancouver, BC. (sorry for using state abbreviations here)
Given how illegal immigration is a hot-button issue in the U.S. this is probably an odd question for you to deal with, and this is partially about immigration, but coping with my mom doing a disappearing act.
All we can glean from her Instagram is:
Not coming back until the President is out of office or impeached; we don't need FUCKING PSYCHOS like him there who grab women's pussies. I'm staying in England and am gonna claim asylum there then come back to the US when he's out of office. Or I may just gonna stay in England forevah! > Woooooot!!
and a selfie of her in a tiny croptop and hot pants.
There was also one other Instagram post saying she'd never renounce her U.S. citizenship and it was full of personal attacks directed at the current administration.
My dad is devastated and can't understand why she'd just disappear and move to a new country and claim asylum like this. He's not depressed yet, but I worry he could be.
He's said he wants to talk more with me about this, but doesn't know what more he can say about it; he feels shocked and upset.
I feel pretty upset too, but have no idea how to cope; I had a great relationship with my mom.
I'm looking for advice on how to cope, as she's only been gone from the U.S. for three weeks now, and it doesn't seem likely that she may return.