Here is a cry for help! We cannot figure out how to amend our situation. Maybe someone out there can help us with legal advice.
We've done tons of research online, but things change so quickly and here in France the left hand never talks to the right hand when it comes to government documents.
In March 2014, my husband and I married in Normandy, France, after fighting through the immense amount of documentation they needed supplied and translated, only planning to stay here until we were married then move back to England as a family. My then 5 year-old son (not genetically my husband's son, but he's his daddy) and I are American. My husband is British, born and raised.
From this point on my son and I have had no legal need for a carte de séjour technically, as family members of EU citizens do not need them as long as they entered the EU country legally. My son and I were given a 3-month visitor's visa. We moved from Normandy, France to Vendée, France. A major change of day-to-day temperature, financial situation, and all matters of life for us.
We happened upon an offer that seemed to be too good to be true, so we decided to stay in France and attempt to start a business repairing and running a gite. My husband has been desperately trying to get work and stay in work since May 2014 as the offer turned out to be a farce, but has only had possibly 10 months total of work up to today.
We are not renting out the house my husband inherited and are living on this income alone and have been since about June 2014.
My son and I have left and entered France a total of 5 times in total including first entering France until today, with little to no trouble, outside of two occasions:
The time we entered England to go to my father-in-law's funeral, where I was kept aside and questioned for about four hours, since we hadn't booked returned ferry tickets, as we were not exactly certain how long all affairs would take to get in order. It was a nightmare. We were finally given just 9 days to settle everything and burry my father-in-law then return to France. Which we did.
The last time my son and I went to visit family back in Colorado, USA in summer 2015, where we were nearly turned around at CDG airport for not having a carte de séjour -- even with my documents showing we were legal to remain. We have no health insurance, no governmental financial aid, and no carte de séjour or social security numbers for France -- not even my husband... as we just cannot understand what rights we do or do not have and how to go about sorting everything out.
I am pregnant, due in mid August, and we are drowning in every bill imaginable. We are waiting for an appeal on our UK family permits, but that's looking rather dark as the UK referendum is looking at leaving the EU.
Oh, I forgot to mention I had a grand mal seizure, first time in my life, and spent 4 days in the hospital and am now only a high dose medication daily until I give birth where even more tests must be done after I give birth.
1a. How do we get health coverage through England? Is it possible? What documents are needed?
1b. How do we get health coverage before I give birth, if we're not eligible for coverage through England?
How do we push for our appeals to go through quicker, as they have both been put on hold since February?
If we end up needing to stay in France, what are my and my son's legal rights in Vendée, France?